T r a n s m i s s i o n & a L i v e W i r e

06:02 am - On the cover of this month's Heavy Metal Magazine

Gosh, tacky_tramp, you've been unemployed for three months. You sure haven't been posting much to your ol' el jay, or commenting on your beloved friends' journals. What have you been doing?

Oh, idk, just RIDING MY ARMORED ELEPHANT THROUGH A HOSTILE AND FIERY WORLD WHILE WEARING NOTHING BUT A TABARD, TWO GIANT WEAPONS, AND PLATE BOOTS:

06:42 pm - The triumphant return of the explicit sex post!

Hey, you know what's awesome? Going on a couple dates with someone and having a great time ... and then discovering he's kinky! In a manner that nicely compliments your kinkiness! Some girls want to hear "Oh, didn't I tell you I'm an oil heir?" but for me, the magic words are "I thought you knew I'm an experienced top!"

( Scene from a backseat. Explicit sexual content. Hooray! )

01:45 pm - The view from under the bus

Aside from the exhaust fumes and the asphalt burns, it's quite lovely down here. Won't you join us?

I do feel compelled to point out that I called this months ago.

10:29 pm - Gotta have faith

One principle I try to live by is "Practice good faith and assume good faith." In short, I do my best to act based on honesty and compassion, and when I interact with others, I start from the assumption that they're being honest and compassionate as well. Or at least they're attempting to do so.

However I struggle with practicing good faith -- lord knows I can be quite unkind when I choose to be -- I'm exceptionally good at assuming it. I can observe a situation, come up with several possible explanations for the behavior of the people involved, and tease out the one that involves the least malice and manipulation. Perhaps I go on a date with someone and sparks fly; s/he seems totally into me, and we go to bed right away. My new partner says that was fantastic and we should get together soon. Then I don't hear from him or her for a day or two. That might mean that s/he was lying about wanting to get together with me again, and was just using me for a one-night-stand under false pretenses -- or it might mean that there was an emergency, like a family crisis or a disconnected phone, that has tied him or her up. When I reach out to contact this person, I will assume the latter, and tailor my approach based on that mindset. I will be friendly, calm, and a bit concerned. I will not level accusations or play the victim.

Assuming good faith is not about accuracy. People lie all the time. People set out to hurt others all the time. Instead, it's rooted in game theory. Check out my hot MSPaint visual aid:

06:49 pm - This post is really an excuse to brag about my OKCupid popularity

Learn from others' mistakes, children:

Hi, my name is _____, my picture will be up soon, i have just created my profile, first things first, your profile just jumped off the page, you are very beautiful. i like that we have the similar interests, i like giving massages and lightly spanking. I am pretty tall, --- 6'2 and very dominant in bed. im very well endowed...no joke. If thats what you are looking for, im willing to be friends first and see where it goes from there! hope to hear from you soon. if you want to see more pics, just reply back.

Just a hint -- I instantly lose interest in any man who claims to be "well endowed" in an opening email. It's not that I don't believe you. It's just that I don't particularly care about that, and if you think that's one of your main selling points, I don't think you have much chance of pleasing me. :)